Destiny: Refuge or Recourse?

Hope you all are doing great. Well, the topic for today’s blog is quite subtle or abstract in nature. The word “destiny” plays a differential role in our lives and somewhat it is situational in nature. It functions as a soothing or self-consolation word, when we see one of our relatives, colleagues, friends, or any person in acquaintances, becomes relatively more successful than us. On the other hand, it acts as the most frustrating element of our lives, especially when we have given our best efforts to achieve a particular thing but couldn’t get it because of various other incredulous reasons.

The most complex part is to understand its application in our lives, like where does it start, when does it end or is it like perpetual phenomenon or does it even exist? It seems there is no clear answer or explanation for this discrete concept.

Even though we do not understand, we tend to use “destiny” on regular basis, mostly in terms of defining or defending our success. Imagine a situation, when you are sitting with a group of people, who are more successful than you are, and when you are asked to explain your achievements, then in that case, there are higher chances that you use destiny as a refuge to substantiate your arguments about your underachievement.

So, how do we manage this destiny-oriented discussion? My suggestion is that before defining destiny we first need to evaluate our own actions unbiasedly. As a human, we tend to blame, and destiny is one of our favourite excuses to pick up. Hence, we first need to introspect, and for time being I would recommend considering a past event, which you think happened solely because of the destiny. I am sure, you would get the answer which I am trying to make. Nevertheless, we cannot rule out the uncontrollable events which decimate our plan and become an insurmountable obstacle.

Be realistic and brutally honest with your own self and your actions and then think about destiny and its role. In short, never let the optimism eclipse realism.